Community is essential when you are a parent of a child with chronic illness. I was so fortunate when my friend Sophia introduced me to my first PHriend, Monica. Monica encouraged me, hugged me and said "Welcome to the family."
At conference we had a time to get together in support groups. There was a group specifically for Parents of children with Pulmonary Hypertension. My friend Sarah said to the group, "This is the best group of people you never wanted to meet." And it is so true because being a part of that group means that you share with us a huge pain and suffering in your life. But I've also never experienced such a true belonging with a group of strangers than those parents. We live 100s and 1000s of miles apart. An online support group keeps us connected day to day. And conference gives us time together to celebrate, support, and grieve.
In another session, a parent said to use the online group to vent your feelings and get support. Take your emotions there. There is no need to spout that off into your children. It was such a profound yet simple statement. My PH child and other children have no idea the stress and pain I feel so frequently. And they have no business at this age to have to carry a burden like that. They know her heart is special. And that she takes medication to help it work like theirs. And that's why we go to the doctor so much. That's all they need right now. I have a community to help carry of the load of I-can't-keep-it-together-right-now! And for that I am extremely grateful.
The conference I attended was through the Pulmonary Hypertension Association (PHA)
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